Greetings Thrive Tribe.
Two weeks ago my Grandfather passed away. He had the beautiful privilege of passing while surrounded by his entire family. A privilege many people do not get. What better way to pass than to be surrounded by pure love?
This has been a vulnerable, heart opening time, and I have used it to reflect on life, love and purpose. What am I truly here to do and how am I living as an individual? To summarize my reflections into one question... Am I living each day in a way that I will smile at from my future death bed? Sounds heavy and morbid, but it's true and this motivates me!
I realize now more than ever that each moment from r i g h t n o w is a chance to m a k e t h e
c h o i c e t o m a k e a c h a n g e. To decide that you c a n and w i l l live the way you want to.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. It's easy to feel overwhelmed... I know because I am constantly working to simplify the chaos around me. Here's what has helped:
Define SPECIFICALLY what you want... The more details the better. When I set real, authentic goals that scare me I know I'm on the right track.
Break it down into the bare minimum actions required to get there. This minimizes overwhelm.
Have compassion for yourself as you try an approach to your life that may be new to you! We hear a lot about being compassionate toward others, but often we forget about doing the same for ourselves.
Operate from a place of pure ♥, and intentionally choose to deepen connections with your forever people.
Walk more. It's meditative. Especially out in nature. So many answers come my way when I walk.
Choose to be grateful and even develop a daily gratitude practice.
Remember: The reason everyone isn't doing this is because it takes conscious, consistent effort. And that's not easy. With every three steps forward you might take one step back. If this happens, you're doing it right! This is because you're not avoiding the deep, inner work that supports lasting change.
In the words of one of my rockstar clients, "This week will pass... Time will continue. How do I want to feel at the end of it?"
A 2 minute video I enjoyed - "Maybe"
“Maybe” - The short story of a Chinese farmer from philosopher Alan Watts.
A Quote I'm pondering:
“Perhaps the biggest mistake I’ve made in the past was that I believed love was about finding the right person. In reality, love is about becoming the right person.
Don't look for the person you want to spend your life with.
Become the person you want to spend your life with.“
A valuable excerpt from a YouTube video called “Training your brain” with neuroscientist Moran Cerf - Watch here.
Top 5 behaviors lead to happiness:
Sleep (Everyone needs a different amount of sleep, the average recommendation is 7-9 hours but all that truly matters is that you wake up feeling alert and well rested.)
Friends and family (Regular healthy social interactions.)
Spirituality (Having a belief there is meaning to life. A sense there is greater meaning to your life.)
Volunteering (Doing things for others. Being helpful when you can be.)
Exercise (It releases happiness hormones in the brain, reduces acute stress and increases long term happiness.)
Gratitude (Taking moments each day to express gratitude towards everything you already have is another essential factor in living a happy life.
Want to up the happiness, satisfaction and fulfillment in your life? Take action to improve these behaviors. If you're very new to this I recommend actually scheduling these things into your calendar. If something is a priority to me then I schedule it and make time for it.
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